Homosexuality

• People with a greater sensitivity to beauty. They find beauty in both sexes and this attracts them. Discovering beauty in the same sex does not mean homosexuality, since that beauty truly exists and it is normal for it to attract. Authentic homosexuality includes a lack of response to the opposite sex.
• People with a greater sensitivity to expressions of affection, wherever they come from. This does not mean homosexuality either.
• People who have thought about or engaged in homosexual acts but only exceptionally. Isolated incidents do not give rise to a firm classification.
• Adolescents with faults in their process of maturity. These are usually corrected easily, unless the disorientation is encouraged.
• People who have not practiced the virtue of chastity but are dominated by desire for sexual pleasures and seek them anywhere. They are indifferent to race, age, and sex. This is not homosexuality but an obsession with sex.

• A traumatic beginning, a troubled environment, psychological pressure..., give rise to a mistaken affective inclination.
• That affective inclination is not controlled but is allowed to run into disordered sexual acts.
• The sexual pleasures obtained reinforce the inclination through the desire to obtain them again.

• Controlling sexual desires, avoiding repeating them both in reality and in thought, in order to forget the addiction to sex. (This will be more or less costly depending on the degree of involvement; this intense effort is part of the price that must be paid to overcome the problem.)
• If there have been no sexual disorders, it is only a matter of overcoming the affective inclination by correcting feelings. Constancy and patience will be needed, until the underlying attitudes are gradually forgotten.
• In any case, homosexual tendencies are better overcome with abundant work (to keep the mind occupied) and with service to others (drawing the heart out of selfishness and loneliness). Feelings of self-pity are counterproductive.
• It will also help to foster spiritual life, to achieve greater balance and to ask for divine assistance.

• If anything goes in sex and there is no limit, then any sexual use would be correct: homosexual practices, adultery, fornication, sex with minors, etc. According to this view, an intelligent use of sex would be prostitution, since it would have the advantage of providing money.
• The other possibility is to consider that sex has its own norms and cannot be used in any way or with anyone. This leads to the conclusion most in accord with human nature: sex should only be used by each husband with his wife, open to new life.

• Those who think that sex can be used in any way consider homosexual practices to be correct.
• Those who accept that sex has its own norms consider the most basic rule to be that it should only be used by a man with a woman. And therefore homosexuality is a tendency that should be corrected or controlled. Obviously this is the reasonable position.

• Those who think that sex can be used in any way consider homosexuality as just another way, and do not wish to be cured nor call it an illness.
• Those who see that homosexuality is an anomalous tendency compare it with inclinations toward theft, alcohol, gambling... And therefore consider it a vice, a defect, or an illness like gambling addiction or alcoholism.

• Considering it a defect or anomaly has the advantage that one will try to correct it and avoid practicing it.
• Seeing it as good does not solve the problem. And let us not forget that being homosexual is not something enjoyable, but a compulsive psycho-dependency.
• It is better to consider it an illness because one can look for a way to be cured. And in fact there are psychiatrists who achieve good results.

• Homosexuality is a purely psychological phenomenon and cannot be changed by hormones. Glandular or hormonal factors are not a cause of homosexuality.
• Homosexuals have normal chromosomes. Genetic or hereditary factors do not cause homosexuality.
• Homosexuality falls among the so-called neuroses or disorders, in this case sexual. (Other neuroses include for example depressive disorders, phobias, anxiety, gambling addiction, pedophilia...) In fact it can be treated through psychiatry and psychotherapy.

• inferiority complex.
• childishness; desire to attract attention and be approved.
• mental egocentrism.
• habit of self-pity; tendency to complain; self-dramatization: poor me!; feeling like a victim.

• The father.- For a boy, feeling valued by his father is essential for his self-confidence as a man. A distant and remote father is a bad influence.
• The mother.- An overprotective mother may make her son feel less virile, and is also an inconvenient influence, though less important than the father's.

• A continuous inferiority complex generates self-pity and self-dramatization, so that one's own ego feels important: How I suffer! My suffering is unique!
• Repeated self-pity generates a habit and a dependence on that consoling complaint. The maturity of the personality is arrested in those areas where that self-pity takes root. And a pitiful child remains living in the adult, tyrannizing the mind in search of comfort.

• An anxious desire for comfort in another like oneself arises. (A selfish love, like that of one who seeks only sexual pleasures.) Why in another boy? Because of his strong desire to be included in the world of men and to be valued by them.
• With sexual pleasures a greater dependence is acquired, without the dependence on self-pity and self-dramatization ceasing. Even more pain is sought to feed the self-dramatization, so as to feel more self-pity. Another lover is sought, and another, and another, and none are truly loved because only one's own self is being sought. And relations are broken off in order to keep dramatizing, seeking another.

• Affective maturity requires going out of oneself, while self-consolation centers thought on oneself, and dependence creates a panic at leaving that situation.
• It is hard to break out of this loop because self-pity consoles a little, and one fears losing this support against one's inferiority complex.
• Affectivity remains stuck in that situation which one fears to leave; and instinctive heterosexual feelings are unconsciously blocked and never reach maturity. A self-pitying and complaining child remains in the interior, dominating and repressing everything else, so as not to lose the comfort of self-pity on which one has become dependent.

• The heterosexual instincts that struggle to emerge, and the self-pitying child that does not let them grow. Emotional maturity that wishes to surface and infantilism that represses it.
• The inferiority complex and the desire to overcome it.
• The compulsive craving for sex and lovers for one's own satisfaction and comfort. And the desire to love truly and not be a slave to sex.
• The demand for attention and the desire for freedom. Excessive attachment to the mother, and the urge to grow up.
• The dramatizing self-pity, and the normal desire not to feel like a victim.
• Difficulty in relating to others, and the strong desire to be accepted and comforted by others.
• They do not feel like women, nor do they consider themselves among men. One is an adult man, and retains rigid childish attitudes.

• Obviously, homosexual contacts that feed the problem must be cut off. Just as a drug addict must give up drugs if they wish to be cured.
• It is helpful to detect the inner complaining child and gradually eliminate complaints and dramas.
• It is helpful to detect infantile self-pity and gradually set it aside.

• Yes, little one, today you suffer so much they are going to declare it a national day of mourning.
• Yes; your case is so important they are going to erect a statue to you.
• In all the world no one suffers so much. What a crybaby you are!
• Yes; you have just broken the world record for suffering and you have earned a cookie.

• Avoid drawing attention to oneself, as children do. Face unknown situations, something children do not like.
• Avoid self-indulgence and coddling.
• Seek to serve others, to come out of self-centeredness.
• Remember divine filiation, finding thus a superior comfort that helps to reject lesser comforts.

• That parents try to be normal and take an interest in their children in the usual way, without excesses or absence.
• That they treat their sons as males and their daughters as females. For example, boys tend to be more active and need to let off steam in physical activity. (This is why boys' schools spend more on maintenance and repairs than girls' schools.)
• Training sons and daughters to lead a sacrificed life without feeling like victims. Not yielding to excessive complaints and coddling.
• A correct, non-permissive sex education.
• At school and in friendships: reject mockery about boys' manliness. Avoid the isolation of any one person.
• Promote good humor and a healthy humility. Encourage a life of work and service to others.
• Being self-demanding, training in effort and endurance. Flee from self-pity. Flee from continual complaining.
• Nurture spiritual life, which will provide good support for any situation.

• Both alcoholics and homosexuals are human beings and deserve the corresponding respect. This does not mean that drunkenness and homosexual relations are correct. Understanding for persons must be shown, but not all human actions are good.
• Both alcoholism and homosexuality are tendencies that should be controlled.
• In both cases, if one gives in to the inclination, it becomes harder to control oneself on other occasions.

• If natural is identified with spontaneous, then homosexuality can be called natural, and the same can be said of theft or murder when they arise from giving in to a tendency. In this sense it would have to be said that not everything natural — spontaneous — is correct. To avoid confusion, it is better in such cases to speak of spontaneous, reserving the term natural for the following.
• If natural means something proper to human nature, then homosexuality is not a natural inclination, but a failure with respect to what is natural. What is natural in human sexuality is that a man marries his wife and they have children. If no children are born, something fails; if he unites with several women, something is not right; etc.

7. It is said that homosexuality is a defect and an illness. From Colombia they ask: is this hatred and discrimination? No, it is not. Saying that a person has defects or illnesses can never be discriminatory, since all human beings have them.

• www.esposiblelaesperanza.com. Self-help for leaving homosexuality.
• www.narth.com National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH). Brings together thousands of specialists.
• www.pathinfo.org. With more links.
• Bibliography.- Some books to download.