Mary loved you before you sought her

A child learns to love his mother because he has first been cared for by her. The article applies that experience to Mary: her maternal love goes ahead of your prayers, your memories, and even your desire to draw close. This changes the starting point. You do not have to manufacture perfect affection or prove you are a good child to speak to her. Even a cooled relationship can restart from something received: she has not forgotten about you. The response will grow little by little. First you can let yourself be loved, tell her what is happening, and ask her to teach you to relate to Jesus with more confidence.