Those in authority also educate self-esteem

Parents, teachers, and bosses do not just pass on instructions. Their way of looking and correcting influences how the other person learns to value themselves, especially while still shaping their identity. Demanding with clarity is compatible with confirming dignity and capability. You can point out a flaw, explain consequences, and ask for amends without using labels like "you are a mess" or making comparisons to humiliate. Mature authority does not give away empty praise. It provides solid ground from which to grow: "this is wrong, you can do better, and I am going to help you respond." That combination of trust and limits forms people who are capable of admitting errors without hiding or thinking that a single outcome decides their entire worth.