Serving is not doing everything for others

Out of affection or impatience, you solve the task, make the decision, and spare the other person the effort. The immediate result seems good: less conflict and more speed. But serving seeks the growth of the person, not just the disappearance of the problem. Sometimes it helps more to teach, accompany the first attempt, or allow a proportionate consequence. Clumsiness is part of learning. This does not justify abandoning someone who truly lacks resources. It requires observing what they can do now and offering precise support, not the maximum possible. Also check whether you need to feel indispensable. Good service decreases as the other gains autonomy. It rejoices in no longer being needed because its goal was to unlock capabilities, not create dependence.